Doulas and Partners

How does a Doula help from the Perspective of a birth partner? When I meet with couples for the first time, it often becomes obvious that the mother is the driving force behind contacting a Doula. I have had fathers ask "will I be doing anything during the labour if you are there?", "I don't get why she needs someone besides me" and, " I don't want to be left out". The fact is, a Doula is there to assist the couple in their birth experience, not just the mother. A Doula will coach the partner in how to assist with massage, physical support and encouragement. She will provide the couple with information throughout their pregnancy and birth to support and empower them. A Doula will never "take charge" unless asked. a Doula is there to provide support, information, education, empowerment, and to act as an advocate for the birthing couple.
a Doula will also support the partner by "covering for them during bathroom breaks, getting food and water and reminding them to care for their own well being as well as there birthing partner's. if a couple is doing very well during labour, I will step back and give them space until there is need for a break or a change in position or location.
It can also be useful for the partner to have a Doula there if unfortunately the baby needs to be taken to NICU at birth, in this instance, the Father can accompany the baby and the Doula can remain with the mother for support and to funnel information.
A Doula is there to support the birthing couple, each couples needs are different however, a Doula should always be an addition not an interference.